Loving Lately – 1.17.16 – GIRL CODE


Happy Sunday : )

I hope you are getting geared up for the week ahead and spending sometime giving yourself a little love today. That’s what Sundays are for, right?!

On the topic of giving yourself a little love, I have to tell you about the serious #girlcrush I have been developing on Cara Alwill Leyba. A few weeks ago my friend Lindzi was telling me about her friend Cara and how I just HAD to read her book. Let me preface this story by saying that Lindzi herself is a total boss. She is a female entrepreneur who is absolutely killing it. One of the qualities I admire the most about Lindzi is that she is all about supporting other women, especially women in business. It’s a topic that we have talked about many times and in most of these conversations Lindzi has talked about Cara.

I started following Cara on some social media platforms like Instagram and Snapchat and I also ordered a copy of her book, “Girl Code”.  Cara is a certified Life Coach and 4x Best Selling Author. She started out her career by climbing the corporate ladder at MTV and after years of hard work, she realized she wanted to spend her time motivating and empowering women in business. I have been following her for about a month now and I seriously don’t know if I have ever felt more inspired. She is like a little blonde ray of sunshine, always encouraging and positive. But don’t let her sweet smile fool you, she is a straight shooter. She says exactly what is on her mind, and is about as real as they come.

The other day she shared this quote and it really resonated with me.

“Check your fucks at the door.”

See, I told you she was a straight shooter! She went on to talk about how shocked she is that so many of her clients are so afraid to put themselves out there. Whether it’s being scared of reaching out to a woman who inspires you or even being nervous about going to a networking event and not knowing anyone. You NEED to step out of your comfort zone. You NEED to put yourself in an uncomfortable position. Those are the spaces in which you grow. The spaces where you learn. Cara always says “Nothing fabulous ever happens in a comfort zone” and I mean, how true is that?! I have never regretted putting myself out there, only the times that I haven’t. So check yourself at the door. All of those negative feelings like uncertainty or discomfort, check them at the door! They aren’t welcome here!

I started reading her book Girl Code this past week, which is ultimately about women empowering other women. How through her books and public speaking events she has met so many incredible women that really support and root for other women and how it has inspired her. She talks about the power of loving, trusting and believeing in yourself. Knowing that no one on this earth is like you and no one can do anything the way you can, because YOU are special. She talks about how in loving and believing in yourself, things like jealousy and cattiness (which are extremely common among women) practically disappear. And how amazing the world would be if we could all work together to lift each other up, instead of tearing each other down.

It reminded me of a quote I saw on Jaclyn Hill’s Instagram. Jaclyn is one of my favorite beauty girls on YouTube and a few weeks ago she posted this quote.

“I choose to surround myself with phenomenal people who are confident and secure enough to know that there is room for all of us to make it to the finish line.”

Don’t you just love that?! She recently spoke in one of her videos and shared a story about her and her friend eating lunch outside. While they were eating a girl was jogging by. The girl was in great shape and Jaclyn joked about seeing her six-pack abs from a mile away. Right as the jogger ran by her friend said “Ughh that bitch! Look at her abs”. Jaclyn said she thought all day about her friends comment. Why is the jogger a bitch for having a great body? She said “She deserves that great body and those abs. Here we are eating pizza and she’s on a run. That’s why she has ab’s and we don’t, she has worked for them.”

Why do we as women have so much trouble celebrating someone else’s success? Another woman’s accomplishments? Something that I have noticed Cara say over and over is “Her success is not your failure”. I feel like so many of us get caught in that trap. You see someone doing what you wish you could be doing and immediately it produces a negative feeling, which is extremely detrimental. We should be saying “You go girl!”. It should be motivating. We should be congratulating each other. Just because the girl who is running down the street has a six-pack doesn’t mean you can’t have one. It means she has made choices day after day that have brought her to that point. And if you want those same results you need to be making those choices on a daily basis too.

We, as women, are amazing. YOU are amazing. If there isn’t someone in your life who takes the time you remind you of that, I will. There is no need to compare yourself (in a negative way) to someone else. Comparison is the thief of joy. Instead, spend some time really thinking about what YOU want. Think about what makes your soul happy. Spend your time nurturing those goals. Think about all of the things you do have, not harping on the things you don’t have. I can tell you first hand, it’s not easy. But once you start making a conscious effort to put yourself in this positive space I promise you will feel the difference.

I hope that this blog was motivating to you in some sort of way. I do not mean to come off as preachy, but wanted to share some of the little stories from others that have inspired and continue to inspire me to be my best self. I hope you have the most amazing week.

Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read <3

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